We retired in 2014 and were preparing to serve a senior couples mission. We suddenly had time and motivation to comprehensively study the doctrine and history of our church. We soon ran into a mountain of factual information we had never been taught at church. A year of agonizing research later and it was clear to us that the essential narrative our church leaders had presented to us all our lives was not true. We reluctantly informed our Bishop what had happened, asked to be released from our callings and told him we would not be attending going forward.
After walking away, we are surprised to see that the world is not as decadent as the church told us. Even more of a surprise is that we are far from alone. We’ve met many Mormon seniors who have similar stories. There are far more EX-Mormons than believing Mormons, even where we live in the Salt Lake Valley. We have found a welcoming new community.
We have been traveling a lot and enjoying a much more abundant life, with real agency. Just being honest about everything has been a blessing and eliminating the monthly 10% tithe of our retirement income has too.
Now that we don’t have to be perfect, we can just be good. We are happier that way.

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